How many times have we heard someone say payback is a bitch or what goes around comes around? When someone slights us we get angry and plot revenge. At least we have momentary thoughts of it. Well, I’m talking for Skippy and me. We actually have long discussions about how heartless we could be. ‘I’m the nicest person in the world until you cross me!’ For some reason vocalising revenge actually releases some of the tension pent up from whatever horrible event that was thrown at us. (Believe me, there have been many.) Oddly, every time we have a discussion like this we end up in fits of laughter. Probably because neither of us takes each other seriously. We know we are too happy to be out there trying to run people over with our cars or take them out on long fishing trips where we come back with a big catch and nobody else. (Although the thought of this also makes me laugh!)
The reality of payback is that exacting revenge on someone brings negativity right back into your life. Given the chance to do something to someone after they have done something to you; what would you choose to do? Initially it might feel great to deliver swift and furious payback. You can imagine the persons face as they realise this is the same thing they did to you. The thought might sound appealing especially if you still are carrying around the hurt from the first painful event. But if you are like me, you risk feeling guilt afterwards. We can rationalise that the person deserved it. But in our hearts we know it is wrong. We know because we felt the pain from it too. Guilt is not something I want to be carrying around. Payback is a bitch. But perhaps the saying is meant to warn the person plotting revenge. Or perhaps warn both parties. No good can come out of evil deeds.
I had the most amazing opportunity for payback today. I didn’t even second guess myself when instead I leant the person a hand. I would like to say it’s not in my nature but I believe we all have a dark side. The difference may be that I have learned to love myself. I love myself too much to bring more negativity into my life. I try to approach all situations with a loving heart. No doubt I fail at times. But I choose happiness in my life. I can’t really commit to that if I am exacting revenge on the people who have hurt me. (Not to mention this would be a full time job.)
I do believe that payback is a bitch. I do believe that what goes around comes around. Therefore, I don’t have time for bitches in my life and if I’m kind to people, I believe that kindness will be returned.
Peace and Love. 🙂